Thai ladyboys have gained international recognition. Not only for their beauty and performances in stunning cabaret shows in Bangkok, Pattaya and Phuket. But also for their political careers in Thailand, which is quite progressive. Even for European standards.. Some of these Transvestite shows (as they are often wrongly called) now tour Europe, the UK and further afield. Such shows are popular, especially in Thailand, with tourists/visitors and also locals.
Audiences marvel at these Thai ladyboys because of their femininity, figures and grace. But what do they (or you) really know about Thai ladyboys?
Let’s best start with the basics and break down the terms. Ladyboy is a term for transgender women which is used in Thailand and other parts of Asia. In contrast to Western countries, this term is not seen as insulting in Thailand. It’s easy to work out the derivation of this term, a combination of: Lady and Boy, that is a boy who presents as a lady (female). Some of you may have heard the term Katoey (or Kathoey). Katoey is also used to describe Thai ladyboys but has negative connotations. This is so because the term Katoey is often used by Thais when they are commenting on something negative about a Thai ladyboy. It’s sometimes also used by foreigners who don’t know any better. We advise to don’t use the term Kathoey in Thailand to address a ladyboy, because they might think it’s offensive.
As is the case with many transgender people across most of Asia, Thai ladyboys are caught between two distinct viewpoints held by society at large. They share similarities with the plight of Ladyboys in The Philippines. And also Indonesia in that they are tolerated but not universally accepted. To be fair, the situation for Ladyboys in Thailand is generally far better than in some other neighboring countries. Acceptance levels of Trans people in Asia are usually related to the amount of religious freedom permitted in a country.
This is where Thai Ladyboys are, in the best position compared to Trans-pinay and Waria. As Thailand is a Buddhist country with over 90% of the population following the religion of peace. Ladyboys can live openly and without persecution and overt discrimination. Buddhism encourages people to be what they want as long as they do good deeds. It also teaches people not to judge others and preaches tolerance for others who may be different. Having said this, most Thai believe that Ladyboys are born as they are owing to misdeeds in a past life!
The bottom line is that Ladyboys in Thailand can be seen in all stratas of society. You can see Thai ladyboys working in hairdressing salons and cosmetic stores. But also in Government offices (such as Immigration where they deal with the public). Thai ladyboys are visible throughout society: in almost all Thai soap operas, many other TV shows and even movies. There are also a number of Thai ladyboys who work as high-profile business leaders or even politicians.This tells a lot about the acceptance of transgenders in Thai culture. Therefore Thailand is a safe country for dating a Thai ladyboy as well as living as a transgender. However, this does not mean that everyone is as open towards ladyboys. The overall attitude of Thai people to Ladyboys can be summed up in this well-known saying. “I have no problem accepting any Ladyboy, as long as she is not part of my family.”
With their international fame and acknowledged beauty. It is no surprise that so many foreign men like to search sites such as MyLadyboyCupid looking to date Thai Ladyboys.
But is it the physical attributes or mental outlook of such Trans women men find attractive? Or maybe a bit of both?
The facial shape and bone structure of Thai males and females is quite similar. With high cheekbones being a key characteristic. Even without cosmetic surgery enhancements! Thai Ladyboys are often amongst the most beautiful but natural looking females in the world.
Thai Ladyboys are physically often indistinguishable from genetic females. Many do not develop any male characteristic gender markers. In fact, you only have to look at the contestants in some of the famous beauty contests to see this. Can you believe these Trans women are not genetic women? We bet you don’t.
Many Thai ladyboys know from an early age that they are Transgender. Therefore they start taking birth control pills (for their hormonal content) at the early age of 10 or 11. Others take sanctioned courses of hormones from ages 13 to 14. Since they start transitioning early, the body does not have the time to develop male characteristics, but instead develop beautiful female features. For instance the redistribution of their body fat and natural breast growth means that their body shape stays very feminine until they reach adulthood.
Since Thai ladyboys are pretty much accepted in society, they are very open and free in their behavior. Communicating with a Thai ladyboy is therefore very easy and accessible. They don’t have to deal with discrimination, suppression or even violence. You can start dating Thai ladyboys in various famous ladyboy bars in Bangkok. You can read more about the best ladyboy bars in Bangkok in our blog. Are you not visiting Thailand but still want to connect and date Thai ladyboys? Just sign up on MyLadyboyCupid for free!
Many Thai ladyboys work in the entertainment industry or have participated in beauty contests. This attracts foreign men. Many of these ladyboys have experience with talking to foreign men. These Thai ladyboys are fun to be with and combine this feature with the in-built Thai sense of grace. Generally speaking, the foreign men using ladyboy dating sites such as My Ladyboy Cupid are more open minded than Thai men. They will treat and respect the Thai Ladyboy as they would treat a genetic woman and take care of her as if she was his wife. This feeling of being appreciated as you are attracts Thai ladyboys to foreign men. Of course Thai ladyboys can't get pregnant. But this doesn't mean that they don’t have a sex-drive. In fact, most Thai ladyboys have the sexdrive of a young man and are not afraid to show it! These aspects match well with each other and are one of the many reasons foreign men and ladyboys are so attracted to each other.
The Thai reserved and non-threatening demeanor are famous. It's also well known that no-one bothers about what you look like or how you dress in Thailand. Ladyboys, Toms (female to male Trans), gay men and women all happily co-exist and work together without overt discrimination. There is no atmosphere of the threat of violence associated with discrimination against minorities. Such as that which is apparent in, say, the US.
Maybe the West has a lot to learn about dealing with and recognizing the third-sex!